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How well do you know each other?
- We talk all the time
- Friendly but surface-level
- Barely spoken, just vibes
Do you work on the same team?
- Same team, daily overlap
- Different team / department
- One of us manages the other
Are you reading signals or projecting?
- They're definitely flirting
- Hard to tell
- Probably projecting
🗣️ Talk to Them First. Vibes Aren't Consent.
If it goes badly, can you avoid each other?
- One of us could transfer
- We'd be stuck together
Does your company have a dating policy?
- No policy / don't care
- Policy exists, need to disclose
- Strictly forbidden
🚫 Absolutely Not. The Power Imbalance Kills It.
☕ Coffee. Casual. See if the Vibe Survives Daylight.
🪞 It's the Proximity Effect. Let It Pass.
💚 Go For It. But Have an Exit Plan.
😬 Don't. The Awkward Aftermath Isn't Worth It.
💫 Ask Them Out. Off-Site. Low Stakes.
📋 Shoot Your Shot — Then Tell HR Together.
🔒 Find a New Job First. Then Shoot Your Shot.